5 Signs He Don’t Want To Get Serious With You

Hello future wives and husbands! Are you curious if your potential bae want to get serious? I wrote a post on the signs that your potential bae is interested in you. Click the link to read that post before you finish reading this post What Are The Signs He Is Interested?

I have been dating for quite a while now. By now I realize early on when someone is interested in me but only for convenience and when someone want to get serious with me. I am in at a place in my life where I just tired of wasting time.

In the past I have given more chances than I should to the wrong men. We are always hopeful that potential bae will get it together. How long does it take for him or her to get it together? Will he or she really be ready for what I want or need in a relationship?

If you want to know some signs that potential bae do not want to get serious with you, check out my list below:

5. Only Communicate When Convenient


Their only concern is getting their needs met. You won’t hear from him much until he is bored for the night and need some company. If you have been dating this person for a while, this should not be happening.

When a guy is interested in you and want more, he will make time for you. He will want to see you beyond convenience. He will want you around and want to spend quality time with you.

4. No Desire To Meet Family Or Friends

couple arguing

If he or she is interested in getting to know you. they will not only ask about the people you care about the most, but they will be ready to meet them. If they show no interest when you talk about double dating with friends or inviting them to a cook-out to meet family, then I would reconsider if you should continue being with them.

I am talking about if you are with someone 3 months and longer. If by that time there is no interest to meet family and friends, it would be time to sit down and talk.

3. They Do Not Call Or Text

woman on the phone

One of the surest way to tell if someone is interested in you is if they make a point to call or text daily. Now it does not mean he or she has to call or text every hour. But if they are  showing that they are too busy to call to hear about your day or texting just to check up on you, then I would pay attention to that.

If you are the main one who is always reaching out, then I would sit down and talk with that person. There should be no way this person only text or call when you contact them. No one is that busy to where they can go a whole day and not ask how you are doing. That is a red flag if you are communicating majority of the time.

2. Not Sure How He Feel About You

avoid talking about a future

In the beginning of a relationship, you are getting to know the person you are with. So it will take time for you to develop feelings or know how you feel about your potential bae.

After 3 months, you should by now know how you feel about your partner. If by 3 month he or she till don’t know if you are someone they would like to get serious with, then I would consider if you want to stick around.

I used to wait around hoping that a potential bae would see me beyond “friendship.” But I ended up sticking around longer than I needed to. It ended up hurting me and making the other person feel comfortable because they knew I would hang around.

If this person still can’t tell you how they feel about you after 3 months, then it is time to consider whether you want to continue dating this person.

  1. If He Does Not See You Apart of His Future

no future together

What does he or she say when you talk about a future? Do you hear “we” or “I.”  Do you seem to feel like he or she is avoiding talks about a future together. If he or she is changing the subject when you talk about a future, then it is time to end the relationship.

I was on and off for 5 years with my ex. We went from dating, to friends to being involved in a situationship. Here is a link to that post if you have not read it yet 5 Signs You Need To Get Out Of A Situationship

At the end of the day, my ex was not ready for what I wanted. A future together was looking more bleak as the years went on. I had to make the choice to either stick around and hope one day he will see me or walk away. It hurt but I knew I was wasting time waiting for him to one day come around.

We see the warning signs that someone is no ready to get serious with us. The longer we try to stick around, the more hurt we inflict on ourselves. If you can feel that the relationship is going no where, then it is best to end it before someone get hurt.

Have you encountered any of these signs? Do you feel like your guy or woman will come around and get serious?

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