Hello Future wives and husbands! Are you single and not dating? Is it time for you to get back out there and start dating again? Well I took a 4 month break from dating. After some time and some healing from breaking things off with my situationship, I knew it was the right time to start dating again.
This time around, I knew that I wanted to make some changes that will help me get back into the dating game. If I am gonna have some success with potentially meeting the right person, I knew I could not date like I used to in the past.
I want to share with you all some tips I am practicing to make my dating experience more exciting.
- Don’t Look For A Husband
The number one thing I have decided to stop doing is Not Look For A Husband On The First Date! In the past, I took the first dates so serious!!! The first date determined if I would marry the man smh.
I took everything so serious. If his answers to my questions did not line up to mines, I crossed him off my list. If he his bad habit is a pet peeve of mines, he was dropped. The point of dating is to find a potential partner. But you will not find out everything about him in one day.
Chill out. It is okay if he isn’t potential husband the first date. If you give things more time, you will be sure if he is someone who you can see yourself with in the future.
2. Have A Good Time No Matter What
The next thing to do is pretty simple, Have A Good Time! In the past I would let my feelings get in the way of me having a good time. If my date was not what I expected, I would try to hurry the date along, so that I can go home!
No one is perfect, he may not be the one for me. But if I decide to put my feelings aside and just enjoy our time together, I may see his good qualities. The end of the date can change. I can see that even though he isn’t a good fit for me. I enjoyed my time with him or I can see his great qualities and agree to a second date if he ask.
At the end of the night, no matter what happens, I can at least say I had a good date.
3. Slow Down
The last thing I am learning to do is slow down. Now if I like my date and the feelings are mutual, then I tend to rush things. I can already see me and this guy walking down the aisle. I can even see us blending our families together with a house and a picket fence. But that is not healthy and it can cause problems early on.
Go with the flow of spending time together. Let things naturally progress without pushing things along. If he is the one, he will make the moves.
4. It’s Okay Things Didn’t Work Out
You can meet a great guy and think things will work out. In the past, if things did not work out, I would get depressed. I would wonder what I did wrong, why I kept seeing him when deep down I knew he wasn’t the one. But this time I need to be okay if things do not work out.
It is not the end of the world. If we fizzle out, it does not mean I am not dateable. I want to have a healthy approach to the ending of a potential relationship. It is not my fault or it can very well be my fault. But at the end I will make the changes I need and move forward.
These tips so far has been working for me. I been on dates where things didn’t go the way I wanted. I decided to just have a good time and end the night on a positive note. I am currently talking to someone who may be a potential partner. I am taking things slow. If we at the end do not work out, I know that God has someone better for me.
What do you think about my tips? Are you currently dating? Will you use these dating tips? Comment below your thoughts. Until next time xoxo!