Hello future wives and husbands! It is officially November! Today is my Oldest daughter and little sister’s birthday! My big girl turned 7 and my baby sister has just entered her 30s! With that being said, its a time to celebrate birthdays and the last few weeks until the New Year.
The question is how do you set the tone for the rest of the year? Well I want to count down some ways I am personally setting the tone for the rest of the year.
During this time of the year we are getting closer to Thanksgiving and Christmas. This is a time where you can feel down. You are single, not getting along with family and had to cut some friends off. So this time of the year may not be great.
For me, I am single and most of my family are in California. So I do have my days where I feel sad. Last year I went through a bout of depression from Christmas through the New Year. I put on a brave face for my kids. But I would cry at night. It was the worst feeling to be depressed in the midst of a Brand New Year. This year, I told myself that this year I will not go through fronting my feelings for my kids. I want to be happy for real!
Here are some ways I am getting my happy back.
- Be Joyful.
It is easy to get down about the things we do not have. But this year I want to embrace what I do have. A roof over my head, food to eat, clothes to wear. Things may not be exactly how I want it to be but I want to be in a place of being thankful and joyful.
My kids are happy. I want to be as happy as they are. The first step is to be more joyful and thankful.
2. Stop Sweating The Small Stuff
Another thing I want to do from now until the end of the year is not to sweat the small stuff. Sometimes I can make small things bigger by reacting first. If life happens, I want to be able to slow down and think before I react. Assess the situation and then react accordingly.
3. Don’t Settle
I know it is officially Cuffing Season. For those who do not know what that it, it’s a season where the weather is cooling down and you want someone special in your life. To keep you warm at night and to show off during the holidays and to kiss on New Years. For those who are single, it may seem really lonely seeing couples all over social media. Even seeing those you do not care about or family and friends all are coupled up.
It is okay if you are still single. I had to tell myself that I will not settle for just anyone to say I have someone. Sometimes us ladies and some gentlemen will settle for someone they know won’t be around long term. It is better to look taken than to be single.
I had to let myself know that I deserve the best. I refuse to settle. Life is too short to get less than what you deserve. That is what helps me. To know that I am showing my kids that I refuse to settle. I do not want to bring anyone around my children who I knew I had no future with.
Decide not to settle singles. You never knew what will happen. You can very well meet someone at the Christmas party or going solo to a New Years party. So embrace your single season and know that settling is not self love.
4. Start Now
As the New Year is fast approaching. We have 8 weeks left until the New Year! So many have already written down their list of what they want to do for the New Years. Well I want to know why start later?
I used to have all these goals I wanted to achieve for the next year. But as time went on, I decided that waiting until the New Year is prolonging your growth and dreams. We have all these New Year’s Resolutions but how many of us actually check those things off?
When I decided to start blogging again, I originally wanted to start on New Year’s Day. After all, new year, new goals. But I thought about it and decided what’s the wait? Instead of blogging January 1, 2018, I blogged October 29, 2017. I am so glad I didn’t wait until next year. Start now!!
I hope these tips help those who may need a boast in self love. We decide how want to end the year. Do you waddle in self pity because this year did not turn out the way you wanted? NO!! Choose to be thankful, joyful and full of actions! The rest of the year do not have to be a depressing one!
Embrace where you are right now and make some changes today! I pray you all finish the year strong.
How are you setting the tone for the rest of the year? Have you decided to make some changes now? Comment below how you want to finish the year strong!
God bless and talk to you soon! xoxo