Have you ever had your life plan all set? You planned on having a career at this particular age and you wanted to be married and already have babies running around the house before the age 30?Raise you hands if you are that chick! I would raise both my hands because I had my life plan all set! My plan was to have a career and be married and have kids by 25 years old. Well I did get what I wanted but it did not the way I wanted.
I met my husband and we fell in love at the age of 22. We got married at the age of 23! I was 25 and just had our first son together. Tragedy struck and my husband was killed. I was 25 years old at the time. So I lost my husband and became a single mother at the age of 25. Ironic that I wanted to be married at 25 but I ended up losing my husband and becoming a single mother at the age of 25! I thought my life was over. I never thought I would lose my FIRST LOVE! Most don’t get that chance to marry the first person they had their first relationship with. I had that privilege and I am thankful and forever grateful I met my husband and we share a w0nderful son together. So now that I am single and a mother, what was next for me?
I was lost. But I figured that I was still young. I thought I would have a family again before I was 30 years old. Well I was wrong! I wanted a family and a sibling for my son. I got the siblings he wanted, two beautiful girls but NO HUSBAND IN SIGHT! Dating has been a disaster! I been on disaster dates and just never really connected with anyone. A lot of that has to do with not healing from the death of my husband. I was busy thinking about society and how they viewed single mothers. I looked at my AGE AS THE BIGGEST FACTOR!! I don’t want to be an OLDER BRIDE! I also wanted to say that I was married to my husband for that GOLDEN 50 YEARS. But here I am 33 AND STILL SINGLE!!!
Through this journey of life, I realized that we can not plan everything in life. We can make plans for our career goals and stuff like that, but to PUT A TIMELINE ON YOUR LIFE IS NOT IDEAL. We have to accept whatever season of life we are in and not beat ourselves up because we did not MEET OUR DEADLINE! We may hit our target goals on what we want. That is truly a blessing. But if life happens and things do not go according to planned, take a step back, evaluate what you need to do to grow and move forward knowing that everything will work out in the end!
God will be there to pick you up when you feel like you are not going to make it. Life is full of joy and also full of circumstances. We should not be define where we are based on age. We are not LESS THAN BECAUSE WE ARE OVER 30 AND STILL SINGLE! As long as we are growing and happy, that’s all that should matter!
Im am 33 and still single. I have to say for once in my life I AM OK WITH BEING SINGLE IN MY THIRTIES. I feel more wiser and stronger than I did when I was in my twenties and even the first two year of being thirty. I have learned to LOVE MYSELF! I have learned to live in the moment and not get hung up on AGE. I have learned to be OK DURING MY SINGLE SEASON. So now I am 33 and loving my growth and loving life more!